Something that comes up a lot in therapy is this feeling of not being able to fully trust yourself. It can look like second-guessing your decisions, questioning your thoughts, looking to other people for reassurance, or feeling like everyone else seems to “know better” than you. Underneath it, there’s often a quiet fear of getting it wrong.
What I’ve come to see is that this isn’t about a lack of ability. It’s not that you don’t have the capacity to understand yourself or make decisions. It’s that somewhere along the way, your sense of trust in yourself has been disrupted.
For many people, this comes from earlier experiences where their feelings weren’t validated, where they were told they were “too much” or “too sensitive,” or where they learned to look outside of themselves for approval or direction. Over time, this can create a disconnect from your own inner voice. So instead of feeling grounded in your decisions, you feel uncertain, and you might find yourself relying on others to tell you what’s right.
And again, this makes sense. It’s not that your inner voice isn’t there — it’s that it hasn’t always felt safe or supported enough to be trusted.
In the work we do together, this isn’t something we rush or try to fix quickly. It’s something we gently rebuild. We begin by noticing when that self-doubt shows up, how it feels in your body, and what thoughts come alongside it. We create space to pause, rather than immediately looking outside yourself for answers.
Trust doesn’t come from forcing yourself to feel confident. It comes from slowly reconnecting with yourself — your feelings, your responses, your intuition — in a way that feels safe. Over time, that relationship with yourself begins to strengthen. Not perfectly, and not all at once, but enough that you start to feel more steady, more certain, and more connected to your own voice.